How YOU Influence YOU

Given all things equal: the products, the comp plan, unlimited territory, the training, your goals then why is online marketer/networker X’s business taking off the ground as oppose to online marketer/networker Z’s? What’s missing? What’s going on? What’s invisible to naked eye? Think back when you started your business you were all pumped up and excited and enthused. You were going to do this and make the money you always wanted and take the world by storm.

You thought about your dreams, goals and where you want to be in 5, 10, 15, 20 years and what you would be doing and with who and where and all that good stuff. You even write down your dreams and/or goals in a notebook. In that moment you are all caught up, filled with passion in all the possibilities you see for yourself. It’s an hell of a charge – it’s an emotional roller coaster because you can see it so clearly. You are emotionally high without any drugs then you go home and reality sets in. You wake up the next day and the reality you’ve created hits home HARD. Same house and/or apartment, same people, same jive from the same environment, same dead-end job, same negative spouse, same tired old excuses. Time passes by and you feel less and less enthused. You don’t go over your wheel of fortune, you read your goal book less and less, your business is not making the progress you thought it should be making this time, so in time you have lost your vision, your gusto, your spunk. You’re a failure and this is not the first time. Ooh, you want to crawl into a hole and cover yourself up for a long time and not come out. My friend you have lost the Battle of the Mind!

Why is it you can stand on the cusp of life and see with little effort all the glorious things you want to do and have, but making it happen is just out of this world for you? What’s happening, what’s going on, what is missing from you and this puzzle??

A technique, a bridge, a tool that you aren’t using that can make all the difference in your life and the lives of others. This tool or technique I’m talking about can make all the difference in your life and your business associates. What I’m referring to is affirmations or what others simply call self-talk. Self-talk is simply what you and I do each and every day, throughout the day. It comes from what you believe about yourself or how you feel about yourself. It springs from you. It’s like a light switch; you can switch it off or on – or make it negative or positive. Self-talk affirms the good, the positive, it’s thinking of the best for the better.

Take online/network marketer X and how he interacts with people: “The last person I talked to wasn’t interested, I hope this talk goes smoother. Well, here goes nothing… I hope I don’t sound as stupid as last time. Maybe I need to stop because I can’t do this…maybe my wife was right, maybe this business doesn’t work. I must be out of my mind to try something like. I must be a glutton for punishment. Nothing I ever do works out. I’m not a quitter, so I’ll give it another month for this business to work then at least people can’t say I didn’t try”. But online/network marketer Z is using a completely different talk strategy, listen to this: “This feels great, I feel great. I love the way it feels when I’m sharing my excitement about my business with other people and listening to what they have to say… this is a blessing. I’m a skillful communicator…it’s such a joy to communicate with other people. I’m really the best at what I do. Today is going to be my best day. I’m knowledgeable about what I do… I help other people get what they want so I can get what I want… I want the best for myself and others…this is a game and I’m constantly winning. I really am getting very good at what I do… I am very successful… I am grateful…I am talking to people who only want to be my business partners”.

Does either conversation sound familiar? “Hell no – I don’t talk or sound like that… I don’t self-talk.” Oh yeah? That’s you self-talking right now. Everyone does it and regardless of what you say out loud your inner conversations with yourself will have more impact than you can possibly imagine. They can powerfully determine what results or future you create. Even though self-talk conversation is silent and quiet it will drown out any other conversation you will ever have. You can spend hours and days making your goals and planning your future and that’s great – but your inner talk will determine to a great extent HOW YOU FEEL about those goals and visions.

Your self-talk will determine just to what lengths you will go to write them down, read them faithfully, believe in them religiously and follow through month after month, year after year. When we were young we thought and imagined we could do anything – we were full of possibilities. There were really no limits to our imagination, but as we got older somehow we begin to process and think differently and it’s just when we are old enough to do something about those dreams we had to make them turn into reality. BUT what happens? We become re-programmed by our own experiences and other people’s commentary. In short we call it or it can be called reality of the “Three R’s” which set in over time and it is this insidious process that causes us to stagnate and believe others outside ourselves. This process – these “three R’s” begin to distort and lower our self-image to the point we may start to forget we have one. WE, I mean you and I begin to repeat what “they” said and it becomes a part of our self-talk.

Now this “new” self-talk begins to act as a filter through which we view the world and our experiences – they create and reinforce our reality. And the experiences that support our negative self-talk easily pass through the filter and get added to the negative self-talk junk pile which supports the “why things don’t ever work out for me” syndrome. And you now the longer this continues the more likely you and me will continue to “react” rather than respond to situations that we could have handled better. We repeat the same thing over and over and then expect a different result – and we wonder why this is happening again and why we can’t get things done successfully. Sort of the definition of insanity, heh! Now this is important – get this; GRADUALLY, over the years, we begin to give up on ourselves and throw in the towel and resign ourselves to what is below us and chalk it up as fate – and we don’t even know why.

What we have to do is change the pattern – break the cycle (Tony Robbins). Since all self-talk is TALK we all make up – we can change it for the better by being aware that it exists, and secondly, begin to notice when it is happening and decide whether it’s moving you in the direction you want to go. A clue to this is: if you are not feeling joyous or in a happy mood about what you are feeling or thinking SOMETHING is not happening right, something is wrong, something is off, so fix it right away. Change up, and modify self-talk. Thirdly, you must realize where self-talk comes from. Realize that you make it up and that you can choose to change it or not. This takes patience and a little courage and practice to embrace this process but it’s something you can begin to change right now.

However, don’t beat yourself up when you are unaware of what’s happening (your own self-talk is running you), but as you become aware of your self-talk you can become more aware and shift the process to your own advantage where it beginsto empower you. Now that you know this is a choice you can begin to change your situation and circumstance by conscious use of language. Meaning choosing thelanguage that will support the direction and results you want. The choice will be either of two: (1) creative justification or (2) creative interpretation. Creative justification is simply adding negative fuel to the fire of negative self-talk which goes back to where we were talking about how your negative experiences from self and others justifies (supports) why you can’t do something and “why” things never work out for you. Whereas, creative interpretation is totally the opposite of what I just said. Here are some guidelines since doing this may be easy for some and hard for others:

*Use self-talk in the first person and present tense – (“I am, I will…..).

*Only use self-talk in short sentences or thoughts – (one or two).

*Embellish it with positive adjectives – words like, “excellent, brilliant, best, industrious, successful, skillful, etc.

*ATTACH/PUT your feeling into it”.

*Read them over and over – aloud – until it is all you can think about. Remember you are reprogramming yourself just like training a muscle with weights; it needs a lot of repetitions.

How would it be if someone called you first thing in the morning and said: “You are really a great fantastic person. I love to be around you and listen to your advice. You have great energy and insight, your enthusiasm is off the charts, and your creativity is unmatched”! Imagine if you heard something like this first thing in the morning – what a way to start the day.

This is the blessing of using self-talk/affirmations. You make the voice in your head become your friend by doing this every morning and evening and throughout the day. Using self-talk/positive affirmations is like going to the spa or getting a massage or wearing clothes that make you look awesome. You feel different, look different, walk different and talk different – you begin to carry yourself DIFFERENT!When you use and apply self-talk you empower yourself and it shows and other people will notice by feeling your energy and will be attracted to you and your business(es). I know a lot of people say they didn’t get involved in network marketing for personal development (MONEY; well at least they are honest about it), but it comes with the territory.

In case you forget or didn’t know getting involved in business or network marketing is an indication you wanted more from life; so remember if you want more you have to become more as the saying goes. Once you see it works you’ll like the feel of it and will want to continue down this road because who doesn’t like feeling and being bold, courageous, confident, powerful, magnificent, loving and accepting yourself fully. It’s even contagious in a good way although it can be hard at first, but once you start down this road anything is possible. You can create mission statements, goals, and visions of the way you want your life to be, but your self-talk/affirmations will determine how you really feel about yourself and them. Giving you the mindset necessary to follow through and take the actions necessary to make them come true today, tomorrow, next week, next month and years to come. Do this for yourself, your family and your followers…I’m an effective writer, I’m an effective writer, I’m an effective writer!

All the best,


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P.S.  “One can easily measure the character of a person by the way he or she treats you when you can do nothing for them”.



sex hwy signIt’s been days, weeks, even months; or it’s been so long you can’t even remember, so now what? Now it’s time to pull out all the stops and lay all the cards on the table, or in this case, the bed.

How do you really feel? time to have a heart to heart, and yes, if you are telling the truth about your feelings, there may even be tears, but if you can’t be vulnerable with each other, then who?  Ladies, to get through this, we have to lose the “men don’t cry they bleed” mentality. We cannot expect him to be hard, (no pun intended), during  these sensitive times because we are sharing everything right? This can’t be easy for him either,  so allow him the security of being able to trust you with his true emotions as well.

He has low libido, we now understand that it is not our fault, but that does not mean that we can’t or shouldn’t do anything to help. Because of the PC he may not be able to take much, if anything to raise his libido so we have to get extremely creative, I mean thinking out of the box creative.

My husband and I had our heart to  heart before trying to get to sleep a few nights ago, he reminded  me that there were plenty of sites that I could visit to brush up on some new ideas; at first I felt offended, but I had to back up and re-evaluate the situation and what he was saying. Guess what? he was right, I mean truth be told I had already been on some sites, but was too stubborn to admit it; because I was falling into that self-pity well and didn’t want to grab a hold of the rope that he was tossing me. Our talk helped me to realize that I am by no means a prude, but I could stand to be a little more naughty instead of always playing the “coy” role all the time.

Remember, even if we try something new and it does not work out, keep in mind, even the most experienced baseball player may strike out a few times before he hits his home runs and becomes world champion.


And Away We Go!

And Away We Go!

After studying cancer for decades we know what causes cancer,  so the experts also know but they are not saying because its big business. In this day and time “they” would rather teach you how to treat cancer rather than prevent it. Nutrients and minerals supplementation help our bodies function better and keep us safe, and if we are  not getting these from our soil and foods we do need to supplement. *Unless you and I are growing our own food in good nutritious healthy soil, we probably aren’t getting everything we need nutrient-wise to be in the best of health*.

Sorry to blow your bubble but eating certain foods don’t “heal” you  – again, there is no such thing as “healing foods”.  Foods carry essential nutrients and minerals (raw materials) which our bodies need to do its best, but behind it all is our body. Hint-hint, clue-clue; many people have “healed” some serious health conditions while fasting.

When we go to the doctors with a health problem we are happy when he or she relieves the symptoms and we pay our bill and go our merry way. However, did he go to the root of the problem – NO! Think of it like a short in your light bulb fixture, the bulb went out you call the handyman to fix it. He takes the light bulb out and puts in a new bulb, but the problem is still there. He treated the symptom not the cause. Stuff like aspirin, antacids, drugs, chemotherapy, pain-killers and a lot of other therapies and treatments just deal with the symptoms and not the root cause.

You wanna know the simple truth about healing? I’ll share it with you – all you need to know is your magnificent body is the healer. Add to that correct information, adequate amounts of sleep, proper digestion (good food combos), sufficient essential nutrients, and stopping and ridding your body of the causes/factors that began your ill health in the first place is the fundamental key to continued good health. This is what I’m making effort to do and advising you the same.
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P. S. “Diets rich in fruit and vegetables may reduce the risks of some types of cancer and other chronic diseases”  –  National Cancer Institute


no sex      Sometimes a woman just want’s to be held.  Most of the time she wants , needs, and desires her man to ravish her at least once,  if not twice a week; however, when dealing with issues that come with P.C.  namely the issue of low testosterone,  (low libido),  it becomes a chore getting him aroused  (sometimes failing).  This can make even the strongest of women feel inadequate – ‘what’s wrong with me’,  ‘he’s not attracted to me any more’, and of course we all heard and remember, ‘If he’s not getting it at home, he’s getting it from somewhere else’. Even as he says, “it’s not you, it’s me”;  the quiet tears are already falling.

My husband and I have laid awake in bed until 1 sometimes 2 in the morning discussing  our delicate situation.  Even the best of marriages fall apart because of the lack of communication; and a marriage of 18 years is not exempt. There was a time when we had sex 2 maybe 3 times a day, almost everyday.  So I can tell you that being on the opposite end of that scale is no picnic.  BUT in the beginning of this ordeal I made a promise to my husband,  I told him that I would rather him do whatever he needs to do to rid his body of this horrible intruder and maybe not be able to have sex, than to cave in and let IT take him away from me; and it’s a promise I intend to keep.

So, what to do when we (he) can’t? get creative, lots and lots of kissing, hugging, and even fondling, and soft intimate caresses. AND when we do, when we can have sex, enjoy every freaking single moment and pray to God that it won’t be the last time.


Greetings, I hope this finds you well and in health.

I want to share an article by Susan Bratton of “Revive Her Drive” fame, which I thought could shed some light on why men behave as they do. Helping your marriage is as important as doing three(3) things:1-have sex, 2-hug, touch, cuddle with each other, and 3-use variety; make changes.

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“License my roving hands, and let them go, / Before, behind, between, above, below.”

Poet John Donne liked to touch. Some people are turned on by sex in the woods or in the bathtub. Some like high-heeled boots, candlelight, or Kama Sutra-like coital positions. And every human being has a slightly different opinion about how he or she wishes to be caressed and talked to during coitus.

Much of this variation comes from childhood, from adolescence, and from all of the chance mental associations we make between certain experiences and sexual feelings. But men and women also have some sexual habits that almost certainly originate in the gendered brain.

Men, for example, are more likely to remember specific aspects of a past sexual episode, such as particular smell, piece of clothing, or time when sex occurred. The feminine psyche is less subject to “conditioning,” to associating specific odd things or events with sexual encounters. This may explain why men are more interested in fetishes and exhibit more “deviant” sexual behaviors than women do. For some men, a particular incident or object in childhood becomes linked with sex and they must replay this scenario to trigger lust.

Men’s impressionable sexual nature may have evolved for an important reason. Women can find a sex partner almost anytime they want one; after all, women own the precious egg. Men must fertilize this egg if they are to send their genes into perpetuity. So men are obliged to remember the circumstances of successful sexual encounters.

Men also fantasize about sex with different partners and anonymous partners more regularly than women do, most likely because it is biologically adaptive for men to inseminate as many females as they can.

And men like to look.

“Peeking in through/ the open window, / your face was / virginal. / But you were / all woman / below.”

The poet Praxilla wrote these lines in Greece in the fifth century B.C.C. Times haven’t changed. In a 1920s study of several hundred American men and women, 65 percent of the men said they had done some peering through a bedroom window. Only 20 percent of the women had done any stealthy ogling.

Men are more turned on by visual stimuli.

They are visual pornographic materials of every kind more frequently than women do. When they fantasize, they conjure up more images of coitus and body parts, the explicit details of sex itself. Mane men are even aroused by looking at their won genitals and by showing their genitals to wives or lovers. This can lead some men to outright public exhibitionism.

Sexual peeping probably gives men a physical jolt. We know that when male monkeys see a sexually available female or watch a companion copulate with a female, their levels of testosterone spike. So primatologist Kim Wallen, of the Yerkes Regional Primate Research Center at Emory University, speculates that men may go to strip bars and look at girlie magazines to boost their levels of testosterone. Not surprisingly, the $500 million porn business in America today is supported almost exclusively by men.

This male urge to look has a Darwinian payoff. By peering at a woman, a man can judge her health and vigor. As levels of testosterone rise, he is also stimulated to woo those who look young, health — and fertile.

This is an excerpt from, “The First Sex: The Natural Talents Of Women And How They Are Changing The World,” by Dr. Helen Fisher.

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Greetings world, Nabih & Halimah here;

I recently became a part of a health and wellness company called Youngevity because I heard about the Clemson University clinical trials being done on some core products of the company that killed cancer cells. This is an article detailing the results:

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AL International (JCOF) Announces Results of Youngevity® Clinical Research Studies Performed by Clemson University – Institute of Nutraceutical Research

San Diego, CA – January 25, 2013 – Youngevity® Essential Life Sciences (, a wholly-owned subsidiary of AL International, Inc. (OTC Pink: JCOF) (, a fast growing, innovative, global direct marketer of healthy lifestyle and nutritional products and gourmet fortified coffee, announced today the exciting results of a series of clinical research studies performed by Clemson University – Institute of Nutraceutical Research (“INR”).

The INR is a national leader in nutritional research and one of the most highly regarded organizations in the field of phytonutrients, vitamins and minerals. The goals of the INR are to develop greater confidence in product quality, effectiveness, and enhance consumer demand for quality nutraceutical products.

The clinical studies were performed to identify the potential benefits of Youngevity’s signature core products, Beyond Tangy Tangerine® and Ultimate Classic®. Youngevity’s mission was to truly understand and clinically substantiate the health promoting benefits of these two products. Individually, each product targets specific areas, needs, and nutritional deficiencies of the body.

Multiple studies were recommended by Clemson University scientists to provide a comprehensive evaluation of the Youngevity® products. Specific biomarkers were chosen to study in the areas of safety, inflammation, and when Beyond Tangy Tangerine® and Ultimate Classic® were administered to cancer cell cultures.

Youngevity® Clinical Research Study Highlights:

  • Dietary supplement safety is the most highly regarded aspect of any of the Youngevity® various products and has become synonymous with the Youngevity® name and brand. Although Youngevity® only uses nutrients that are absolutely needed by the body and in forms that are highly bioavailable, Youngevity® felt it was important to show empirically the range and degree of safety through looking at (3) factors – Genotoxicity, Anti-Genotoxicity, and Anti-Mutagenicity. The results of the experiments showed that Beyond Tangy Tangerine® and Ultimate Classic® at various concentrations did not show any genotoxicity.
  • When Beyond Tangy Tangerine® and Ultimate Classic® were administered to healthy human cell lines; they did not induce or create any inflammatory response in levels above and below the recommended dosage. Beyond Tangy Tangerine® and Ultimate Classic® showed inflammation protective properties and heightened the body’s protective responses to possible inflammation.
  • When Beyond Tangy Tangerine® and Ultimate Classic® were administered to healthy human colon cells; there was no significant death of healthy human cells compared to cancerous colon cells. Ultimate Classic® killed 95% of cancerous colon cells, 65% of cancerous liver cells, 65% of cancerous stomach cells, and 30% of cancerous breast cells. Beyond Tangy Tangerine® killed 60% of cancerous colon cells, 65% of cancerous liver and stomach cells, and 30% of cancerous breast cells.
  • Beyond Tangy Tangerine® and Ultimate Classic® both exhibited efficient inhibition on proliferation of cancerous cells at the recommended dosage levels. Both products showed there was inhibition of the growth of more cancerous cells, preventing further malignant multiplication and growth of unhealthy cells.

The Clemson University studies have provided Youngevity® greater confidence in their products, scientist, formulators, and manufacturing processes and helped to understand some of the pathways the Youngevity® products may be working through in order to provide these benefits.

AL International CEO, Steve Wallach, adds, “At Youngevity® we have always sought to provide high quality and safe products, these studies have added to the assurance we have in all of the Youngevity® products.”

About Youngevity(R) Essential Life Sciences

Youngevity® Essential Life Sciences ( ), headquartered in San Diego, CA, is a nutrition and lifestyle-related services company dedicated to promoting vibrant health and flourishing economics. Founded in 1997 by Drs. Joel Wallach, DVM, ND, and Ma Lan, MD, as AL Global, Inc., the company adopted the name Youngevity in 2006. Youngevity® is the only direct selling company to have a qualified FDA Health Claim. Dr. Wallach’s work has been published in more than 70 peer-reviewed and referenced scientific journals and books.

About AL International

AL International, Inc. (OTC Pink: JCOF) ( is a fast-growing, innovative, multi-dimensional company that offers a wide range of consumer products and services, primarily through person-to-person selling relationships that comprise a “network of networks.” The company also is a vertically-integrated producer of the finest coffees for the commercial, retail and direct sales channels. AL International was formed after the merger of Youngevity® Essential Life Sciences ( and Javalution Coffee Company in the summer of 2011.

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AL International, Investor Relations
John Zervas
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Nabih & Halimah


Image Paraphrasing The Joker from “The Dark Knight”.

My wife was a nurse and would hound me off and on since 2004, to get a prostate screening, which of course I being a macho-man, it was out of the question. It wasn’t until 2008, when I decided to follow the advice of my dear wife Halimah and get a screening. I coerced a friend to get his as well and we went to a free prostate screening at a clinic. A few weeks later we were anxiously checking with each other to find out if either of us heard anything. Finally, on Thursday June 6th, I got my results in the mail. My PSA was 4.6. Nothing to really worrying about, sort of borderline back then, so I didn’t really get concerned. I kept going along with my same lifestyle.

However, in 2011, I started noticing I was moody, tired, irritable, urinating more during the night, my libido was low, and I mainly had no drive or ambition. What the hell was going on? I realized from research that  my testosterone levels could be low, but knowing that testosterone and cancer didn’t mix I would need to know my current PSA level before I took anything.

Back to the doctor. After finding out my PSA  was high, we scheduled a biopsy to be sure. Boy, it’s nothing like a biopsy to get you rev-up. Anyway, the day came and my wife is with me while the urologist is taking and making the twelve (12)slices from my dear-old prostate. Things were going slightly ok, I mean he wasn’t drunk, he didn’t have shaky hands nor was he causing me UNDUE pain and discomfort. No, that wasn’t it – it was Questions. Yes, questions. My wife had a nursing background and together we had researched stuff, but she kept asking these questions; and each and every time the doctor would pause or stop to answer her questions. It was nerve-raking, prolonging the whole procedure until finally I had to tell her to stop because it was bad enough feeling every cut/slice of my prostate, but to lengthen the time it’s being done was too much for me to bear. Get it over and let me out of here – ASAP.

A week later it was confirmed I had prostate cancer. Eighty percent (80%) of the samples taken were cancerous – 10 out of 12.

On to the next phase, how are WE going to treat it? My wife very much wanted to not only support me but play a role in the decision as this would affect her life as well. She told me from the very beginning that WE would deal with it immediately. She said so sweetly that she would rather have me growing old with her and not be able to really have sex than not have me at all. How could I respond to that?

I told my darling that she would have me and our sex life, without the surgery or chemotherapy, or anything like that, I already knew of several documented cases of people fighting cancer just by changing their diet.  So here we are today following a vegetarian/vegan life style, my wife was already a vegetarian, so she was very happy that I would finally join her, but scared and leery at the same time because she knows that I have a love affair with food and it would be an uphill battle for me. She also took an extra step to stop eating certain things that she loved just because she knew it would be too much of a temptation for me. So this is my story, here we are right now at the ripe (young) age of 58; updates to come.